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Reducing Worry

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Many clients are concerned with the amount of attention they give to worry in their lives. Worry is a waste of your emotional energy as it does not change a thing in your life – you know this but you do it anyway. You persist in adding clouds in your otherwise sunny life. You have probably tried to distract yourself or to argue with your cognitive distortions, such as future catastophyzing, that are attached to your worry and exacerbate your worries. For some, this does work. In fact, the exercise of managing your thoughts changes your...

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We are Halfway through Your Year’s Goals…

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Ok everyone – this is a reminder to you and me that we are halfway through the year and it is time to reconnect with what you wanted to create in this year. How have you done? If your answer is not satisfactory, don’t sit in the guilt and disappointment. That will not get you any further towards what you want. You can still do a lot by the end of December. I want to inspire you with this blog to help yourself to put small habits in place to get some good results for yourself. First, you need to realign with what you want. Choose only 3...

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Procrastination and Resistance

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Isn’t this topic familiar to everyone at one time or another? Even as I write my blogs these days I can feel the tug to procrastinate and sometimes give in to it. Let’s look at how procrastination sneeks in. 1. Mostly it starts in your mind. Like you, I have many rationalizations to put off what my goals are. These all sound logical in my mind but are in reality excuses to put things off. I say things like I worked long hours this week. I need some work/ life balance – I will put that off for today (good one). Or I have neglected the...

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The Importance of Story

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Our story is important to where we are today. Our history contains pain and joy and learning and experiences that we love to reflect on. The important part of story is to be able to reconcile the parts of our story that are painful and appreciate the parts that were great. Many people do not reflect on their past. It can contain a part of them that is too painful. If that is the case for you, I would recommend that you seek out counselling and do so. When you are desiring to live fully and you have things in your past that are painful and...

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Clarity Basics

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Do you, like others, want more clarity on who you are, what you want, how to get what you want and to know what you actually find meaningful and fulfilling? If the trajectory of your life is not what you expected, sometimes stuckness ensues. If that is the case, the good news is that you can generate a new reality or a new clarity. Does it happen magically? No, which is good because then you would have to sit with your life on hold waiting for a fairy or a lightening bolt from the magic of God to give you clarity. Beginning clarity is...

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6 Steps to Live More Fully Today

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Isn’t life terrific? We have so many choices from inside to outside. You don’t have to delay to get more education or more money – just make the choice to walk through the door. Here are a few possibilities for you to choose from today. 1. Focus on the Now Your brain, body and whole self wants to focus on the present. That is where you make the most difference. You can’t change yesterday. You can’t control tomorrow. Let go of that noise and be present and aware of this moment in your life and live it fully. 2. Be...

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Wanting More in Life

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Do you have that restless feeling of wanting more?  Most of us experience that in our lives. Seeing someone in need may provoke your feelings of wanting to serve more – to find the time to volunteer. Feeling lonely may provoke you to want more connections with people, to build your friendship base. Being with someone who is dying may provoke us to wanting more presence in our lives. To find a way to live a life of awareness, focussing on each precious day. Coming up short in the money area may have you wanting more money. The list is...

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Do You Feel Light?

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Sometimes we let life and all we have to do bog us down. Because I actually like to learn and to have a to do list, I can recognize that I haven’t laughed in a while when my head is down and I am producing. Life needs to have lots of humour and at least some spontaneity. We need connection with others to feel light. Enthusiasm for and with others helps to make everything go better. Knowing what gives you meaning and knowing your very individual purpose helps you to feel light. Living with openness and a recognition of the we in everything...

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Moving Relationship Challenges to Personal Strengths

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We have all noticed the changes in our society in the way in which we interact with each other. For those who want to live above the norm, we can understand that the pendulum has swung from the Victorian era to now where children were seen and not heard to the place where children are known to regularly aggressively swear at their parents and even worse. From children to adults, relationships regularly break down. It is very hard to go against the norm in a tide against relationship honour and respect. We need our family relationships for our...

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Therapy vs. Coaching

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Because I have a long history as a psychotherapist, I find one of the questions people ask me most is, ‘what is the difference between coaching and therapy?’. There are certainly many similarities as there are in a lot of helping professions. The people who come to both professions want change for the better in their lives. The field of therapy is much broader then it has been in the past and so you can encounter therapists who will see clients for a longer term for challenges such as early childhood trauma, anxiety disorders, or...

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