Tending and Befriending

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One of the saddest part of our current society today is that fact that we are not as connected as we used to be. I often ask the individuals or couples I see when was the last time you had someone over to your house for coffee, breakfast, dinner or any occasion. It will often be months. You may say that you see your colleagues at work every day and go for coffee but often that does not translate into “I could call on them for anything in the middle of the night and they would be there”. Social support and friendship remains a huge...

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Future Catastrophizing – Yikes!

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There is convincing research that suggests that the greater proportion of our health issues can be attributed to our worrying about the future. Mark Twain said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened”. Others have made humorous comments taking this quote and giving it a twist, saying worry must work because when I worry about bad things happening in the future – they normally never do! Even though that does tickle my funny bone, it is also sad. All that time wasted on worry can be captured...

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Welcome – Be Encouraged Today!

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Today’s theme is how do you start on a new path in life. Some people are natural dreamers and if you ask them – they know exactly what they want in life. They may not yet know how to access it but they are sure of what they want. It is the others I come across that find it much more difficult to know what they want, that I am speaking to today. One of the tools that I find helpful is to make a life wheel with the themes that you engage in everyday. For instance, your life wheel may include family, friends, life mission or values,...

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Know Yourself

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Knowing yourself is a hallmark of people who are successful. This is not about imagining who you might be but really knowing your strengths and your vulnerabilities. Spending time really knowing yourself is important in life. Listening to others feedback. Sometimes I find that my clients do this step but their thinking involves a lot of negativity towards themselves, focussing on their failures in the past. Their life story becomes all about their failure. This is not helpful. Being in the present with an accepting self (much closer to the...

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Letting Go

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Fall is a great time of the year. And if we let it, nature has a lot to teach us in each season of the year. Where I live (Vancouver, BC Canada) my flowers are still trying to bloom while the temperature is falling to 3% degrees C at night and the leaves are falling in droves. As I and many others excitedly begin new things in the fall months, it is important to consider what needs to be let go of. I am the type of person who thinks she can do it all (I am like the flowers still trying to bloom in the face of freezing temperatures) and I have...

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Thanksgiving – an Opportunity for Gratitude

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One of the hallmarks of those who are living fully and experiencing happiness is that they are able to be present to opportunities to be grateful. Thanksgiving is such a great reminder to look at the many blessings we all have and to be thankful to God for them. I remember reading Victor Frankl’s book about his time in a concentration camp in the war and the impact it had on me. He talked about having very little to eat except broth. Some people were able to be grateful for the little they had and others were fearful and not able to be...

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Distress – Influence or Control?

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Do you ever find yourself in your home life or at work, frustrated and challenged and stuck and all those other negative words? Sometimes we have a habit of moaning and trying the same thing over and over again, when we do not have influence or control over the system within which you work. Always ask yourself, do I have influence or control over this issue that I am distressed over? If the answer is I have no control, then look at any possible influence that you may have. If after reflection, you decide to use your influence, such as writing...

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Taking Control of Your Energy

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If you are aiming to be your most exceptional self in 2018, you will need to manage your energy. I hear so many people today who have challenges with their energy. It is good to break down your energy to all the parts of you, because there is a difference. If like me, you have challenges with physical energy due to a biological break down, there is still mental and emotional energy. So if you were to be intentional about taking care of your energy, what would it look like? As you know for yourself, mental and emotional states don’t endure...

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Great Book – Character Strengths Matter

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‘Character Strengths Matter’ is such a great book. The subtitle is “how to live a full life” which is why I was drawn to the book. Contributors to each character strength are written by people who have studied that particular character strength. It is written with lots of personal stories and humor. I will be challenging you with some character traits over time. I find in my high performance coaching that the way forward for people is often through character strengths that are valued but need to be honed and...

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Making Daily Choices on Your Journey to Live Your Purpose

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MAKING DAILY CHOICES ON YOUR JOURNEY  TO LIVE YOUR PURPOSE “The mark of a great man [or woman] is one who knows when to set aside the important things in order to accomplished the vital ones.” Brandon Sanderson This is a quote that hits home for many of us. There are so many wonderful things to attend to in life that we are hard pressed to choose well. I think this is especially true of women. Their mission in life will sometimes be in conflict with their more unpredictable roles of wife, friend, children and grandchildren. The...

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