Forgiveness – A Lighter You
Forgiveness is a big part of living fully. There are mistakes in all relationships including our relationship with ourselves and we need to be able to forgive in order to release negative energy and be at our best. Not necessarily easy, however. In order to come to a new relationship with some freedom, it is important to look at what needs to be forgiven in your past relationships. The cost of not forgiving is fairly high. When we do...
Living your Values
We all have certain values that we would say we subscribe to. I was struck by something I read recently that talks about values as verbs or adverbs. It is all about action. Think about your life… Are you acting out your values? There is a body of research that shows if you actually take a few minutes and write out what is important to you, it really makes a difference. One research project had kids in middle school write for 20...
Reducing Worry
Many clients are concerned with the amount of attention they give to worry in their lives. Worry is a waste of your emotional energy as it does not change a thing in your life – you know this but you do it anyway. You persist in adding clouds in your otherwise sunny life. You have probably tried to distract yourself or to argue with your cognitive distortions, such as future catastophyzing, that are attached to your worry and...
We are Halfway through Your Year’s Goals…
Ok everyone – this is a reminder to you and me that we are halfway through the year and it is time to reconnect with what you wanted to create in this year. How have you done? If your answer is not satisfactory, don’t sit in the guilt and disappointment. That will not get you any further towards what you want. You can still do a lot by the end of December. I want to inspire you with this blog to help yourself to put small habits...
Procrastination and Resistance
Isn’t this topic familiar to everyone at one time or another? Even as I write my blogs these days I can feel the tug to procrastinate and sometimes give in to it. Let’s look at how procrastination sneeks in. 1. Mostly it starts in your mind. Like you, I have many rationalizations to put off what my goals are. These all sound logical in my mind but are in reality excuses to put things off. I say things like I worked long hours this...
The Importance of Story
Our story is important to where we are today. Our history contains pain and joy and learning and experiences that we love to reflect on. The important part of story is to be able to reconcile the parts of our story that are painful and appreciate the parts that were great. Many people do not reflect on their past. It can contain a part of them that is too painful. If that is the case for you, I would recommend that you seek out...